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Relationships and Essential Oils:

There are so many types of relationships, so I sat for a while and thought about what I felt would be helpful for me to delve into.

I am going to look at relationship with self, when we need a bit of energetic protection in relationships, intimate relationships and communication in relationships.

I have found communication and relationships comes up regularly for many of my clients. I wanted to share an oil that I feel can really help us.


Oil of communication / confident speech.

Spearmint helps us when we aren’t speaking up and being true to ourselves in relationships. It supports us finding our voice. It also helps those who hide their thoughts and opinions, gives us clarity, and the confidence to verbalise what’s going on for us.

Its gentler than peppermint but from the mint family.

It is great for children too. For us as parents trying to support our children’s anger, sadness, or emotional outbursts spearmint can be a fantastic go to oil to diffuse around the home. Allowing the emotions to flow for them and us is only positive in the long run. Children knowing that emotions like anger and frustration are normal and OK to express is important. Spearmint can allow this safe and nurturing space for all the family. It can help them to find the words and feel calmer.

You can use spearmint three ways internally, topically on skin diluted or aromatically inhaling from a bottle or in a diffuser.

Here are some ways I like to use it:

In the diffuser with Wild orange / tangerine / grapefruit / kumquat / red mandarin / green mandarin – any of the citrus oils.

Topically – great with citrus oils as an aromatic dressing after the shower with frankincense too.

Internally – raw chocolates / raw hot chocolate

As a mum and a therapist, I find I sometimes need to protect my energies in these relationships. I wanted to give you a couple of oils that could support you with this.

Tea Tree / Melaleuca

This oil is amazing for energetic boundaries. It can help to release codependent and parasitic relationships. These toxic relationships maybe with people in your lives… you may feel drained when you spend time with them, you might not be aware of the energy leakage you are experiencing.

Tea tree can help break these negative ties in these kind of relationships, so healthy new connections can be formed. You can honour your space and boundaries.

If you are someone who struggles with boundaries, allowing people to take advantage of your time, energy, talents, don’t stand up for yourself, feel responsible for others – tea tree is a great oil for you.

It can especially help heal relationships with mothers, a mother figure, or women in general.


Tea tree can help rebalance your heart chakra – if you are giving too much love – put some on your chest to help the flow of love be rebalanced. Base oil and 2 drops of tea tree. Rub on your heart.


Another good practice to take advantage of the protective properties x3 drops in your hand rub together and breathe it in. then smear your auric field, by wafting your hands over your head, face and down your body as if brushing away any unwelcome energy.


Tea tree / geranium / lemongrass

Diffuse , anoint or place a drop of each in your hand – when these issues surface and bring heavy emotions. This blend can support cutting ties from mother issues and wounding.

On Guard

Blend of wild orange, clove, cinnamon, eucalyptus, and rosemary.

This blend for shielding from bacteria, mold and viruses as well as strengthening our immune system but it can also be used to ward off energetic parasites, domineering personalities and other negative influences.

Its great for strengthening inner self, inner resolve to stand up for oneself and to live in integrity. This blend can support people with weakened boundaries, those who find it hard to say no. Cuts away unhealthy relationships. It helps people to stand up for themselves.

You can use On Guard three ways

Topically – I use on my feet when I feel like I’m coming down with something or anyone in the home is unwell, or I need support with my boundaries.


In the diffuser when there is illness or healing needed. Also, when there’s an unsettled feeling – people falling out.


If anyone is unwell or I feel my immune system is comprised I take it as a hot toddy with lemon, ginger, honey, or I use a veggie cap, olive oil and take like a tablet.

Relationship with self:

I can sometimes slip back into the old habit of sabotaging looking after myself, so I reach for rose, bergamot or geranium. All of these are powerful oils to support this sacred relationship.


I use on my heart chakra to support being kind to myself and listening to my own needs. Loving and honoring myself.


When we think of relationship with self, things like self judgement and low self-esteem can get in the way – bergamot can help with this. It can also help with change in one’s life too.

It can be used topically and aromatically.


This beautiful oil supports us to trust ourselves more. It helps us to be kind to oneself and not put ourselves at the bottom of the pile.

Geranium can be used topically and automatically. My favourite way is in a bath with lavender and Epsom salts.


There are lots of oils that can support intimate relationships.

Using all of these in massage or in diffusers can really help support intimate relationships.

Ylang, Ylang, clary sage, lavender, patchouli, jasmine, neroli and sandalwood.

These are great for slowing down, feeling sensual, being present. They are all feminine oils.

*If you wish to know more about these oils, please ask me. I offer a free 1 to 1 session to those who want to purchase essential oils from me and wish to start on a journey using essential oils for their mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health. You can book a session with me using this link

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