Mini Series: Part 8 “The Leap Into Adulthood”

The move from school or college into university, the workplace, or another path entirely is often painted as a time of freedom and fresh starts — but for many young people, it can feel like they’ve been thrown into the deep end of life.

This transition can stir up excitement, fear, self-doubt, and identity shifts — all while they’re trying to navigate totally new environments and expectations.

It’s one of the biggest changes they’ve faced yet — and just because it’s expected, doesn’t mean it’s easy.

What it might feel like for the young person:

“Everyone else seems to be coping better than me.”

“I’m not sure who I am without the structure of school.”

“What if I made the wrong choice?”

“This is harder than I thought it would be.”

Underneath the independence is often a quiet sense of being unanchored — they’re figuring out how to belong, how to manage, and how to become themselves in a new world.

What you might notice:

Homesickness or emotional ups and downs

Lack of motivation or burnout

Difficulty managing daily responsibilities (money, cooking, studying, commuting)

A sudden need for reassurance or, conversely, a strong push for distance and space

Self-doubt or second-guessing their choices

This transition asks a lot of them — not just practically, but emotionally and mentally too.

How you can help:

🌿 Stay connected, even from a distance – check in without pressure; let them know you're always there

🌿 Validate their experience – it’s okay if things feel hard; it doesn’t mean they’re failing

🌿 Support emotional self-care – encourage tapping, journalling, sleep, healthy routines

🌿 Don’t rush the process – allow time for adjustment; it takes longer than we think

🌿 Offer reassurance over solutions – often, they just want to hear: “You’re doing okay.”

Try gentle tapping phrases like:

“Even though this is a big change, I’m learning and growing at my own pace.”

“I’m allowed to feel unsure and still move forward.”

A gentle reminder for the young person:

“You’re not expected to have it all figured out. This is a season of learning — about yourself, your needs, and your path. Keep going — you’re finding your way.”

💛 How I Can Support You or Your Child

I offer one-to-one support for children, teens (8–18+), parents, and teachers who may be finding transitions or emotions overwhelming. Sessions are gentle, empowering, and tailored to each individual, using a blend of EFT tapping, coaching, and calming techniques. I work in person at my beautiful, peaceful therapy space in Bradford on Avon, or online via Zoom. If you’d like to explore support for yourself, your child, or your school, you’re warmly welcome to get in touch.

More info, availability, and pricing can be found at www.rachelstacey-mckay.com