Mini Series: Part 7 “Becoming More Independent”

The move into sixth form, college, or an apprenticeship is often seen as a young person’s first real step into adulthood — with more choice, more freedom, and a growing sense of responsibility. But underneath the surface, it’s also a time of uncertainty, pressure, and identity shifts.

At this stage, young people are navigating an in-between space. No longer children, not quite adults — expected to act maturely, make long-term decisions, and stay motivated in an entirely new environment.

What it might feel like for the young person:

“I’m supposed to be independent now, but I still feel unsure.”

“Everyone else seems to know what they’re doing.”

“What if I’ve made the wrong choice?”

“I don’t want to mess this up.”

This transition is less about timetables and uniforms and more about finding their way in a more self-directed, adult-like world — and that can feel overwhelming.

What you might notice:

Difficulty managing time or keeping on top of coursework

Changes in energy, motivation, or confidence

Heightened anxiety about the future

Questioning their identity, direction, or friendship groups

Wanting more freedom but still needing emotional support

They’re stretching into their next chapter — and that stretching takes energy, courage, and patience.

How you can help:

🌿 Stay open and curious – ask how they’re feeling about their choices without judgement

🌿 Keep the door open emotionally – let them know you’re there, even if they push for independence

🌿 Normalise the unknown – remind them it’s okay not to have it all figured out

🌿 Support with life skills – help them gently build time management, budgeting, emotional regulation

🌿 Use tapping or calming tools for self-trust and overwhelm, e.g.:

“Even though I’m not sure what’s next, I trust I’ll find my way.”

“It’s okay to take things one step at a time.”

A gentle reminder for the young person:

“You don’t need to have it all worked out right now. Keep showing up, stay true to yourself, and take the next small step.”

💛 How I Can Support You or Your Child

I offer one-to-one support for children, teens (8–18+), parents, and teachers who may be finding transitions or emotions overwhelming. Sessions are gentle, empowering, and tailored to each individual, using a blend of EFT tapping, coaching, and calming techniques. I work in person at my beautiful, peaceful therapy space in Bradford on Avon, or online via Zoom. If you’d like to explore support for yourself, your child, or your school, you’re warmly welcome to get in touch.

More info, availability, and pricing can be found at www.rachelstacey-mckay.com