Mini Series: Part 4 “A Whole New World”

The move to secondary school is one of the biggest transitions in a young person’s education. It’s a leap — socially, emotionally, and academically. Even when a child seems “ready” on the outside, the shift can stir up deep inner wobbles.

New buildings. New teachers. New subjects. New rules. New friends.

It’s no wonder their nervous systems can feel overwhelmed.

What it might feel like for the young person:

“What if I get lost or don’t know what to do?”

“Will I fit in?”

“What if the work is too hard?”

“I want to seem cool, but I also feel scared.”

They’re moving from being the oldest in a familiar place to the youngest in a completely new one. The pressure to fit in, figure it out, and not mess up can be intense — even if they don’t show it.

What you might notice:

Irritability, withdrawal, or more tears than usual

A sudden focus on appearance, fitting in, or “not caring”

Exhaustion after school or reluctance to talk

Increased anxiety about practical things (e.g. getting the bus, finding the toilet, using a timetable)

This isn’t just “back to school” — it’s a whole new chapter. Even confident kids can wobble.

How you can help:

🌱 Practice the practical – journey to school, reading a timetable, what to do if they’re late

🌱 Talk about feelings honestly – share your own school memories to normalise nerves

🌱 Hold space at the end of the day – let them decompress before asking lots of questions

🌱 Keep home their safe base – routines, familiar food, and quiet time matter more than ever

🌱 Use tapping for regulation – try “Even though I feel nervous, I know I can find my way through” or “I can take one step at a time”

A gentle reminder for the young person:

“You don’t have to figure everything out all at once. You’re allowed to feel nervous and brave at the same time. One day, this will all feel normal — just not yet.”

💛 How I Can Support You or Your Child

I offer one-to-one support for children, teens (8–18+), parents, and teachers who may be finding transitions or emotions overwhelming. Sessions are gentle, empowering, and tailored to each individual, using a blend of EFT tapping, coaching, and calming techniques. I work in person at my beautiful, peaceful therapy space in Bradford on Avon, or online via Zoom. If you’d like to explore support for yourself, your child, or your school, you’re warmly welcome to get in touch.

More info, availability, and pricing can be found at www.rachelstacey-mckay.com